we used to be friends

Jessica left for Canada in first grade, and I never saw her again. Then, in third grade, one day at lunch, Mckenna decided I wasn’t cool enough to sit with her anymore and left. In fifth grade, Audrey’s mom got a new job at another school and she too, left. Then in sixth grade, it was my turn, I left. I moved to a whole other country and found a new friend. She was my everything, my peanut butter to my jelly, my salt to my pepper, and quickly became my newfound family. But as always, she left and I was sure that we’d never talk again. This time, everything felt different, and our bond endured. Why was this time any different?

We cared. Simply because we both cared enough to put in effort and time for each other. First of all, we needed to be understanding. People grow up and change all the time, sometimes that causes people to grow apart and sometimes it helps bring people together. Understanding our differences and being empathetic with each other helped tremendously.

Also, embracing modern technology was another great asset to our friendship. Always sending messages and calling each other allowed us to stay connected. Even though we were thousands of miles apart, technology allowed us to still feel like we still lived across the street from each other. Sometimes we are really busy and it gets tough to find time to text all the time and without a doubt call each other. Whether you’re in a long-distance friendship, relationship, or away from family, communication is crucial. Know that sending a quick message lets someone know that you’re not ignoring them but are just really busy.

Through communication, make sure to also plan in-person visits and this can be as often as you’d like. During breaks or vacations, plan to meet up and set up plans in person so that you still get to see each other even if it’s a few times a year. The anticipation of these visits can serve as a reminder of the value you place on your friendship.

Sharing interests and keeping each other updated can also be a fun way to keep in touch. Sharing pictures of your meals or activities can also help you plan things that you both love to do the next time you see each other. Engaging in shared activities will strengthen your connection and give you something to look forward to.

Remember, with effort and dedication, your bond can grow even stronger, regardless of the physical distance that separates you. If your friendship is worth keeping, make sure you put in the effort to keep it that way. And while things change and people change as well, remember that sometimes some people are just not meant to be and it isn’t required for you or them to stay. If you have the fortune of encountering a truly special friend, make sure to hold on tight and invest extra effort in nurturing the relationship.

Yours Truly,

Dear Youth Global,

Inle Kunkongkaphan