peer pressure

Peer pressure is very common. We like to fit in, but sometimes we do not feel comfortable doing what most people around us are doing. Is this something to worry about? Not necessarily, if you prepare before this situation occurs. Teamwork is great, but it is better to not participate in some situations. It helps to be prepared for common, but uncomfortable, scenarios before they happen. 

Think of this preparation like preparing for a fire drill. To avoid danger in the case of a fire, you and others learn the layout of the area, exit points, proper behaviors, and how to help others get to safety. The plan does not need to be this specific, but an emergency drill is a useful metaphor. Giving in to peer pressure is dangerous if it involves unlawful or unethical behavior, so you and others will be safe if you know how to resist following a crowd when necessary. 

Below is some advice.

When you should NOT give into peer pressure:

• When an activity is harmful 

  • Though your peers might want to have fun and be rebellious, it is wise to consider your actions before just joining in. 

  • Really think about whether this activity is harmful to you or others.

• When you feel in danger

  • Do not put yourself in dangerous situations

  • People have free will, but try your best to suggest a safer plan to help others

  • Leave the dangerous situation

• When an activity is against your religious convictions or values

  • For instance, if it is against your religious beliefs to listen to vulgar music, don’t join in

  • If someone is offended, you can kindly explain or just leave

  • If the situation does not change, you can just leave

  • Don’t put yourself in danger to leave

Exercise discretion. Let’s say you are timid but like public speaking. Your good friend wants you to speak publicly about something that you have actually prepared for. This friend knows that you are a capable speaker and might want to help you speak more confidently. This advice is great. On the other hand, let’s say you are seventeen. What if someone pressures you to drink alcohol underage? Don’t do it! This is bad advice. So give yourself time to think through your actions before moving forward. It could save your life!

Yours truly, 

Dear Youth Global, 

Elizabeth Hart