thinking about criticism

Criticism is unavoidable, and we receive criticisms throughout life. There are many ways that people give and receive criticism. We receive criticism more willingly from friends or those we trust than from strangers or enemies. Additionally, criticism is more well-received if given kindly instead of harshly.

Let us acknowledge that we are all imperfect. So we have all either given or received hurtful criticism. Additionally, sometimes we do things that warrant criticism, whether or not we receive it. And some criticisms are good for us, so certain feedback is loving if done with the right intention and in the right ways. However, how can we think about criticism when it is hard to receive?

Below are three questions to ask yourself when you receive criticism:

• Is there any truth to it?

When criticism is delivered in the wrong way or from certain people, it is easy to become defensive. However, if there is truth to it, then the sooner we correct ourselves, the better. This requires acknowledgement that we might have weaknesses or make errors that require correction.

• How important is it?

Some criticism is petty. A person might be jealous of your beautiful, unique handwriting, and say that “no one writes that way,” for example. If your handwriting is readable, this comment is extremely unimportant. You can spend your mental energy thinking about many other, more important things. You can tune out this person. Maybe even give a sincere compliment. Pity the insecurity.

• How can I think about this in a positive way?

It is normal to feel hurt when criticized, so these feelings are valid and common. However, instead of taking criticism personally, we can think of it as an unpleasant way to make your life better. This approach requires open-mindedness, humility, patience, and empathy, all of which are characteristics that help us succeed in life.

Lastly, we can be more forgiving in our evaluation of others, choose our words carefully, and take a moment to think before criticizing people. We, myself included, could all apply this in our relationships. Here’s an article that offers an interesting perspective about criticism. May you be blessed.

Yours Truly,

Dear Youth Global

Elizabeth Hart